How to Start a Conversation With a Girl (or Anyone)

It’s 2022, post-covid. You’ve endured a grueling 2 years of isolation and variant inducing fear. Now it’s time to be social again, maybe even start dating, and you’re wondering how to start a conversation with a girl or just people in general. You know, like you used to do.

Well, have no fear, we’ve got you covered. Here are our top tips on how to start a conversation with a girl (or anyone) that you might be interested in.

1. Be Confident

Yes we know, that’s easier said than done but the best way to be confident is to have a plan of approach.

If you’re interested in starting a conversation, obviously you need to be near that person. Do your best to make eye contact as you approach her, this will give a very clear indication of whether she’s open to having a conversation. If she looks away or avoids eye contact, she doesn’t want to be bothered.

Make your approach non-confrontational by positioning yourself at an angle (or at her side) rather than full face to face. And stop at a bit of a distance, it’ll make her more comfortable (plus covid).

After that, just smile and say hello. A simple hello is the best way to seem confident without being cocky.

One pro tip is to wear clothes that you know you look good in. This will give you a subconscious boost in confidence. What’s the saying? Look good, feel good.

2. Know What You’re Going To Say

The quickest way to be the “weird dude” is to approach someone with an awkward “Hi!” and shuffle off in disappointment because you have nothing else to say. So before you approach someone, think about what you’d like to talk about. The best way to do this is by looking at your current location.

For example, if you approach her at a coffee shop clearly you both like coffee, so ask her what she recommends. Wherever you are you can make a pretty easy leap into a natural conversation by just taking a look around you.

And if all else fails, compliment her. Make a genuine observation about something she has on, shoes, jewelry, etc. Just make sure it’s not creepy.

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3. Keep The Conversation Going (or don’t) 

Here’s where our advice may stray from the obvious path. Other lifestyle guides will tell you to keep the conversation going. Force questions that keep her talking. But we think it may be better to let the natural course of the conversation do its thing. This means you have two options:

A. Keep her talking with open-ended questions

Pro: You can build rapport this way and she MIGHT begin to feel more comfortable.

Con: Forcing her to answer questions, when she just barely met you, can come off as intrusive and a little weird. 

B. Let the conversation flow and potentially end rather quickly. 

Pro: This really puts her at ease. You come off as confident and not weird at all. 

Con: Your chance to turn on the charm and build rapport has a small window, so you have to make the most of it. 

These two options really depend on her vibe. If she seems more open feel free to ask away. If she’s shy and a bit more closed off, then take the opportunity to make her smile and leave her with a great impression. Trust us, they’ll be more opportunities for small talk in the near future.

4. How To Start A Conversation With A Girl – If She Doesn’t Talk Back

It’s okay! Don’t get discouraged. It happens. There’s no rule that says you must initiate every conversation. Sometimes people aren’t comfortable initiating conversations. That’s fine. We’re here to help.

If she doesn’t talk back after one or two attempts, don’t worry. It’s perfectly normal. Some people are just shy and others are introverts. They might not want to talk right now. Or maybe she’s busy and doesn’t want to bother. Whatever the reason, be a gentleman and realize there’s nothing wrong with letting the conversation go.

If she does respond but doesn’t give much information, try asking follow-up questions. Try to find out more about her interests, hobbies, career, family, etc. Ask questions that show interest and curiosity.

5. And Finally…

Be yourself. The worst thing you can do is to pretend to be someone you’re not. People who fake their personalities usually fail miserably. Be honest and authentic. Say things that come naturally to you. Don’t force anything. Don’t overthink it. Just be yourself.

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